Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Life and games...

I read an interesting article recently regarding the games we play in life. Particularly the game of love. The writer, a lady probably in her 20s, asked why lovers like to play this type of games. Instead of a doubles pairing who should be returning every obstacles that come their way, they (I presume she and her husband/boyfriend) are playing a singles match with each other. They throw tantrums & abuses at each other, ending up with both sides hurt and injured.

I thought the description was pretty good but her viewpoint was slightly flawed. Singles matches (quarrels or fights in this context) are essential for couples. The practise session will come in handy when a real test appears and the couple must fight together. It also add sparks to a relationship without real drama. It's all a matter of knowing where to draw the line between pull out of a tackle and taking out your training partner.

Yes yes... when its comes to relationships our emotions can overcome our rationale and we may hurt our partners. I'm sure soccer players take their teammates out from time to time during training sessions. At the end of the day its important to know that everyone is in the same team.

Now who's going to give me a pre-match massage?


Gweipo said...

I'm not sure that these games have any use. We were talking the same topic the other day - 2 married ladies with a single girl. Basically, to keep your sporting analogy our conclusion was there is no point in a tennis player with a racquet entering a game with a fencer with his sword. Because that is the situation when men and women play games. They're playing different games. We explained to this girl that basically men are clueless when it comes to reading women's emotions, things need to be spelt out and made clear. That most of the time they have no idea what the issue is, what the woman wants (eg. she wanted her boyfriend to bring her a pair of earrings as a gift after his recent long travels) she said "bring me a nice gift", I can bet you she's going to get a box of chocolates or perfume if she's lucky and she's thinking earrings. I just know he'd get her earrings if she said earrings. But she didn't. How the hell is he supposed to know?
Guys just don't do hints and subtlety.

If you want to stand and fight together you have to train for the same sport together and you both need the same rule book and you both need to be communicating about the progress and expectations. Forget the games. Life's too short.

WhiteDuskRed said...

Hmm... I will not recommend dropping the games. No matter how short life is, the games are part and parcel of life.

Will it be a wonderful life if there's no quarrel, no suffering, no setbacks and your other half gets whatever you want for all the occasions without you asking?

It's like a rally between 2 badminton players, intent on keeping the shuttlecock in the air for as long as possible, without any danger nor climax. Still a game... but a boring game...

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